Here’s one reason to read female body language: rejection avoidance. Men complain of blow offs and often blame themselves for not approaching a woman right, for acting too fresh and for not being good looking enough. Some of these things may be true but remember that approaching a lady in a party is half the battle. You have to know from the start whether she will reject you or not. Spare yourself the agony of guesswork and analyze her actions from afar. Is she ready to meet people or is she waiting for a boyfriend to arrive? Did she attend the party alone or is she scanning the crowd for a guy she’s smitten with.

1. Search the crowd for preening women - A woman who is looking to be approached will stand more upright. Her facial muscles will be relaxed and she will show a half smile. She is most likely trying to act nonchalant and idly scanning the crowd while holding a drink in one of her hands.

2. Is she fixing her hair? - Part of the preening process is making sure that she looks her best during the night. If it’s not her hair, she may fiddle with her dress. She will also glance at a mirror from time to time. A guy can easily practice reading female body language a before he even approaches her, just to familiarize himself with the signs that a woman sends out to indicate that she is really available and even interested in him.

3. Watch her while she talks with people - Look for her slowly crossing and uncrossing her legs. A delicate balancing of a shoe on the toe of one foot means she’s very comfortable talking to this guy. Some female body language signs that convey comfort include tucking the feet under the chair and caressing or fiddling with a part of her legs or her face.

4. Direct eye contact - You will often see a woman looking at you directly. Watch for signs when she looks away embarrassed as soon as you catch her. This is actually a good sign. A direct gaze is a sign that she wants attention. But don’t approach her just yet. Send your own signals and let her continue giving you signs through female body language that shows she’s eager to talk to you.

5. Look for shoulders and torsos that are pointing towards you. You can test this female body language inside the library. If you pass by a row of shelves and a woman is right there holding a book, her body will follow you even when her eyes are downcast. This is one sign that a woman is seeing you without looking directly at you, and this could be used as a cue to identify those inside a room who are already aware of your presence.

6. Demure gestures - Every woman can act demure when in the presence of a good looking guy. It doesn’t matter how powerful the woman is, when she’s in front of a guy she truly likes, she will most likely act somewhat shy and coy. Tilting of her head and laughing in flirtatious ways are some of the gestures to look for.